thanks, after some extensive goggling, I was able to understand that I needed to install the module, but this needs to be done from another repo,
http://repo.incrediblepbx.com/modules/packages/.
so for anyone looking for this info, here is what needs to be done:
1) get t*f*t*p working, by following tutorial (you need to be logged in to view the whole tutorial)
http://pbxinaflash.com/community/resources/t-f-t-p-setup-for-incredible-pbx.48/
Setup your DHCP option 66 with t*f*t*p://x.x.x.x (change x for your PBX IP)
1a) I had issues with iptables, so if you can get the t*f*t*p to work, try disabling iptables and see if that works
1b) also, you can tail the messages log to see the t*f*t*p download/upload activity " tail -f /var/log/messages "
2) get the GPG patch by following the tutorial :
http://pbxinaflash.com/community/resources/removing-freepbx-12-module-signature-checking.47/
3) go to the repo find the module endpointman (
right click and copy link of endpointman-2.11.9.tgz),
http://repo.incrediblepbx.com/modules/packages/
4) go to your incredible pbx management, select Admin->Module Admin->Upload Modules
5) paste the URL for the endpointman module, install and your good to go. The module will install the menu options for the End Point Manager in the Connectivity menu as OSS modules.